Whew! What a time it has been lately. Let’s just say that we learned a valuable lesson and that is that change is NOT GOOD for someone with Alzheimer’s disease. Taking Dad’s car out of the driveway was a gigantic mistake. After only one week, we had to put it back so that he can sit in his chair and look at it sitting in the driveway. When it was gone, all he did was ask repeatedly where his car was and imagine all kinds of conspiracies about who stole it. It created so much anger and anxiety that for a few days, we were certain that we would have to place Dad in a Memory Care (locked) facility. Now, we’re not so sure.
Once the car was back in the driveway, he settled right down and we have had a rather peaceful week. Lesson learned.
This past week my brother and I met with an Edler Law attorney and I cannot stress enough how valuable that experience has been. I would encourage any family who is in the process of making care decisions for an elderly loved one to seek the counsel of an attorney who specializes in Elder Law. I offer a word of caution though…FIND THE RIGHT ONE.
There are lawyers who see this as an opportunity to get rich. Be careful!!! If your loved one already has a will, power of attorney, or medical directive in place, beware of any attorney who insists on re-creating them. A good Elder Law attorney will try to save your loved one’s money to be spent on their care.
While things are quiet, I am going to enjoy this beautiful day. I hope things are quiet in your life today and if not, I hope you are getting the help and support you need.